Spending time with kids

Family Having Picnic In Countryside
Family Having Picnic In Countryside

I spend a lot of time with my daughters, which is an added perk of working from home. That said, most of these days what I don’t realize is that time is just passing by, I am there with them, but I am really not there. I am either watching TV (I’m a sucker for good TV shows.. sigh), or reading a book or (the worst) on my phone. Since they both are now more or less independent (one is 12 and the other one is 8) and don’t really need my company as such, I have also stepped aside and have started doing my thing. In a nutshell, I am usually only acting as their supervisor (telling them when to eat, do their homework, brush their teeth, etc.) and not really “in” the moment with them. Though when I really start thinking about it, what’s absolutely baffling is how fast time is passing me by!!

How these girls who don’t need their mommy to do most of their stuff now, were completely dependent on me at one point in their life! Don’t get me wrong, I do feel happy for this, and wish them all the happiness and success in the world… but at times, I also miss all those little moments when they were small. Cute times which are now a part of the past and well, no matter how much I want everything to freeze, time will go on and it should too! 🙂

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It’s just that we being the forgetful human beings that we are usually don’t realize the speed of time when it’s silently going by us. And often suddenly get aware of the fact that we have wasted most of it caught up in a mind numbing daily routine. We get a glimpse of it each year at the New Year’s Eve when we realize how fast the year flies by us—and so we make new resolutions all over again which are then generally packed off for the next year, after a month or so. We don’t realize this most of the times, but we spend our lives exactly in the way that we spend most of our individual days. If there is something we cannot do today, chances are we won’t find the will to do it the next day as well. And sooner than we know, we are fifty and we don’t know where all our life went.

So keeping this in view, one of my New Year resolutions for this year was to spend some quality time with my girls on a daily basis— be it going on shopping with them or going to out to eat together. Things that we have just stopped doing together for reasons I don’t remember now. Perhaps we got a little too busy with life. I haven’t been doing as much as I would like to and a month has already passed, but hey, we still have the whole year ahead of us, don’t we! Keeping my fingers crossed.

I’ll definitely give you all a lowdown on how to spend some quality time with your kids once I figure out some sort of formula myself, but for the most part I’m sure it needs to come from the heart and it needs to be worked on. Keep watching this space for more!

by Maasi Wajo

The Perfect Stitched Trousers!

By Maasi Saba

PART 1

I’m in search of a pair, or few pairs, of trousers. Stitched nicely, material not see through, and comfortable to run around in after my toddler.  Being a mother of four, whose weight fluctuates often, I don’t have extra time to hop from shop to shop and find material at a reasonable price, shrink it, and then get it to my tailor for it to be given back about a week later. I’d like to just pick something up and wear it at my convenience. I remember buying pants in America, and most of them fitting nicely, as if they were made for my body type. Now, I feel they are loose in areas I don’t need them to be, and fitted in other areas where it looks unattractive. Just makes me feel even more lopsided than I hope I actually am.

I wish shops here would also make trousers in different lengths; regular, long, extra long, short. Wouldn’t it help their sales if these sizes were available? Don’t they know we all don’t look the same?! I’ve recently heard that the Pathan vendors at liberty are selling trousers in a cotton material for a cheap price. Stylish as well, with either buttons on the side, or some embroidery work. I must go there this weekend and do some shopping. Rupees 400 are nothing for a stitched piece of clothing to be worn for a season. My tailor doesn’t even take that little amount for anything. And these men are selling stitched trousers for that price!

I always get my trousers stitched. I like them to be long and not have my ankles show at all. I wear my pants below my bellybutton so I hate high waist pants. And I especially don’t like it when I’m in sujood, as I feel as if my butt is exposed because the pants are riding even lower now. Who models for these stitched trousers for the branded shops?  Do they not have butts or hips that need a bit of room?

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Recently, I bought a few pairs of pants from Khaadi. I bought the cuffed ones, thinking if they weren’t long enough, I’d unstitch the cuff part. Well, I had to not only unstitch the cuff, I had to unstitch it all and then turn it in once to get the length desired. It was annoying, but at least the material isn’t see through. But I also came across another problem with the stitching— the sujood problem. They didn’t feel different when I tried them on, but when I bent down for Salah, I was very uncomfortable and it was distracting. Thank goodness my shirts are long and cover my butt or God help the person who would have walked behind me. My daughter, who is skinny and tall, also complained of the pants being quite uncomfortable while praying. So it makes me wonder who cut the pattern for these trousers? I was very disappointed in Khaadi’s fitting as I am an avid buyer of their stitched and unstitched clothing, even their home items as well. But their pants were a disappointment. Please someone alter their patterns to fit the Pakistani woman.

I’m still in search of some decent pants. Where o where are you? I need lots of you!