A Stay at Home Mom’s Dilemma

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Time is a rare commodity these days since it’s exam time and trust me, all I want right now is a few hours to myself, with myself, ALONE!! I am getting the feels a wee bit more though, since it’s my 12-year-old daughter’s first go at exams. Normally schools in Lahore begin taking exams right from grade 1, but a few (very considerate) schools including the one my daughters go to, start end of term exams from 7th grade and above. I do like their approach better since it’s given me way more time to relax and chill compared to my friends who’d just go on quarantine as soon as exams would start.

No, I wouldn’t like to change anything about it. I also feel that this approach gives our daughters much more time to grow up, understand, evolve as an individual rather than get into the exam rut when they can hardly tie their shoelaces properly. When you’re taking children as young as 5 into an examination hall, asking them to sit still for an hour or so and concentrate, how do you expect them to perform? They are not supposed to, its time for them to play and be merry. Let them grow up first. Exam can wait. So yes, I’ve always maintained that my preference for this school is firmly rooted in their lenient exam policy above all.

That said, the fact remains; my whole day is spent being a driver for my girls who have very different schedules these days because of the elder one’s exams. Most of the time I’m on the roads and the fact that the school is at a 30-minute ride from my place adds much to the misery. There are days when I can hardly stop and catch my breath for a little while. But I don’t mind much. Hey, I do enjoy the driving (to some extent!)

But that also gives rise to this question that has always been lurking somewhere at the back of my mind. You see, I am an Accountant, I worked for some time but then eventually decided to quit work because I wanted to stay at home to raise my girls. It does unfortunately have a very negative connotation these days but I did not regret my decision once, back then. Now however, I feel that I am constantly being judged for this decision of mine. People don’t say it to my face, but I know they feel it’s odd for me not to be pursuing a career of some sort. They’ve somehow convinced themselves that just because I’ve decided to stay at home, I am “doing nothing” or am a loser of some sort who didn’t get the chance to get up the corporate ladder. I feel that this “doing nothing” phenomenon is what’s the most devastating of all. Only because I’m not adding much to the overall financial figure of my household, does not mean that I am “doing nothing”.

I read. A lot. I’ve taken it upon myself to further educate myself (trust me, there is life beyond organised education). In my commuting hours I usually listen to philosophy podcasts and am reading Camus these days. I also write; I contribute to a couple of literary journals on a freelance basis. So just because I don’t go out, sit in a cubicle nine hours a day to achieve someone else’s goals, doesn’t mean I am “doing nothing” and “wasting myself”. What is the exact definition of wasting yourself anyway? I am sorry if this sounded too harsh but trust me; I have been subjected to harsher verdicts only because I’ve decided not to join the rat race.

It’s just that my priorities right now are just different; or maybe my personality is, I don’t know. But I’m happy doing what I am; it’s as plain and as simple as that. I don’t understand why people have to underestimate or berate people who are doing something different from them. One of the things I shall never be able to understand I guess.

Anyway, bottom line is, just live and let live. You do your own thing and I’ll do mine. Why judge people when you don’t know their story? Be happy and contented with whatever you do/ whoever you are/ wherever you are in life and that’s what should matter the most. Even if that means playing with your cats or driving your kids to and from school; it’s the little things after all!

Maasi Wajo

The Benefits of Owning Clear Nail Polish!

IMG_0785By Maasi Saba & Maasi Sabrina

Maasi Saba here with Maasi Sabrina, sharing a simple hack with you all. We at times cry over our favorite hijaabs (scarves) being ripped or their threads coming out because of our safety pins. We both have little girls who are in our laps or constantly want to be held, and this can be a problem with our hijaabs (scarves). They get tugged at, and at times move around our head, because of all “our” movements. To find that perfect shade, or print to brighten up your outfit, and sometimes your mood is not easy. Finding scarves that stay put is also not an easy task. So we take great pride in taking care of our scarves, many we have had even before we got married. Maasi Sabrina has found a wonderful and cheap solution to our woes. Thanks my dear. She has also found other uses for this little hack. I guess at the age of 36, its about time i finally bought my first bottle of nail polish.  (What would Abu say Sabrina!) So enjoy ladies, and I hope this helps some of you. 

I’ll let Maasi Sabrina explain it to you now!

Salaam ladies!

I’ve been  going a bit crazy over all my pretty hijaabs getting ruined lately due to one reason or another. The main culprit?…are my ghetto safety pins. I know, I know, most people use the large pins that are actually meant for hijaabs, but they feel too big for me. I finally found a solution for my problem. IMG_0786

It’s such a simple hack that I can’t believe I didn’t think of it sooner! I blame it on my mommy brain! Lol. So back to my hack! I seal the end of the safety pin towards the back where the circle is formed with clear nail polish! How easy is that. One coat for both sides should do the trick. Yes you can use any color you have but there are so many other great hacks for the clear kind. 

Here are some other tips for your clear nail polish:

  • Smudge proof labels – These days everyone is trying to make their own labels; if they are for our spice jars, or our home gardens. Just use one coat and it’ll seal in ur label. No smudges!
  • Threading a needle – It’s so annoying to get thread through a needle, and if you’re a mother, you don’t want to waste time on threading a needle.
  • Keeping a button from falling off – You know how you put on a shirt or jacket and realize your sweet baby has turned your button around and around and now it’s unraveling? If you put a clear coat of the nail polish on the thread it will stop that process. So pretty much you won’t need hack number 2! GENIUS!
  • Seals envelope – I know most people don’t send mail anymore but for those of you in Pakistan who use envelopes for every occasion (our momma!), use nail polish instead of putting glue. Seals it right up!
  • Prevent costume jewelry from tarnishing – We wear a lot of costume jewelry these days but never realize how quickly they blacken. The clear coat helps it from blackening. And keeps them shining.
  • Stops laces and ropes from unraveling. That one doesn’t need any explanation. 

There are actually more things you can use the clear nail polish for, but I notice my post is crazy long already. Hope this helps!